Complete Fuckbuddy Handbook – By Feminists For Men
Complete Fuckbuddy Handbook For Men
Ready to learn everything you need to know about a fuck buddy relationship?
Good, because that’s exactly what’s going to happen. Fuck buddies are the hottest thing in the casual sex scene, and if you’re a red-blooded guy who wants to enjoy all the fun without the hassle, you’re likely already using fuckbuddy dating services like Tinder or Fuckbuddy VIP.
Don’t worry, because this article is going to cover everything in full. From finding a fuck buddy to establishing ground rules to being the best damn casual sex partner a woman could ask for. Here’s your ultimate Fuck Buddy Handbook.
What Is A Fuck Buddy?
Right off the bat, let’s clear up what fuck buddies actually are. Prior to contrary belief, it’s not just some slut who you hook up with when you’re drunk. Your fuck buddy is someone with whom you share a mutually-beneficial relationship based solely on casual sex.
She’s not your girlfriend and you’re not her boyfriend. You two should only meet up when one or both of you are in the mood to fuck, and you should treat each other with respect and politeness. You don’t have to do lovey dovey things like dinner dates and you’ll need to keep all feelings and emotions at the door.
Finding A Fuck Buddy Relationship
First and foremost, you need to know where to meet these elusive fuck buddies, and your first point of call should be online platforms. Social media, dating sites, specialized forums. There are a lot of places you can use to find that perfect person for you.
First, try a trust-worthy site like Tinder or Adult Friend Finder. If nothing happens, hit the more niche platforms like Hinge or Bumble. Don’t shy away from the more ‘traditional’ dating sites like Match either. There are plenty of people on there looking for casual relationships too.
Ignore Your Usual “Type”
Everyone has a preferred kind of partner, right? The kind of person who ticks all your boxes, be they sexual or anything else. Sure, this is good if you’re looking for someone long-term, but not ideal for a casual situation.
When searching for a potential fuck buddy, throw your usual chicks out the window. If your ideal woman is Victoria Beckham then focus on the girls who look nothing like her. There are a handful of reasons for this, but the most important one is that you don’t end up falling in love. In friends with benefits relationships, it’s very easy for love and lust to overlap. Avoid it any way possible.
Establish Ground Rules
This is the most important one of all. If you want to keep a successful fuck buddy relationship alive, then you need to know where the boundaries are. Casual sex arrangements blur the line between friendship, relationship and mutual disconnection, so what things are off the table?
Is pillow talk allowed or should you leave once the pleasure ends? Will you be meeting each other’s friends or parents? Should you still email each other funny cat videos? Is a naughty trip to Milan together out of the question? These are the questions you need to ask.
Don’t Tell Your Friends
Fuck buddy relationships thrive under discretion and privacy. The more people who know about your relationship the more likely you are to part ways sooner rather than later.
One of the most important rules is to keep your arrangement on a need-to-know basis. When other people get involved, they’re likely to try and influence your relationship decisions. How many of your friends have tried to give you relationship advice in the past? Probably a lot, and taking unsolicited advice regarding a FWB arrangement isn’t a good idea.
Kick The Jealousy Habit
When you’re fucking someone for a while, it can start to feel like they belong to you. Sex releases dopamine and dopamine conjures up intense emotional feelings. However, jealousy in a casual sex relationship is the kiss of death.
It’s important to understand that your fuck buddy is probably doing other things with other guys. The chances of you being her sole lover are pretty slim and there’s nothing you can (or should) do about that. The whole point of being casual with each other is that can make good use of other people too.
Respect goes a long way in this world. Sure, she might just be the women you contact when you’re horny (and vice versa), but always keep in mind that she’s a real person with real feelings and emotions. Even though you only use her for her body, be aware that there could be times when she doesn’t feel like meeting up.
She might have something else to do, like work or studying. In addition, she doesn’t want to be talked to like she’s just an afterthought, whether it’s before sex or after. You are both giving yourselves to each other in the most primal of ways that’s a reason to respect your partner if nothing else.
Don’t Be A Fool
…wrap your tool. Sure, sex is fun, and casual sex is even better. But don’t forget that promiscuous sex comes with risks for both you and her. Be mindful that you might not be the only person she’s having her wicked way with.
Disease, pregnancy, herpes. The casual sex scene is full of it for obvious reasons. I encourage the rule that every man should keep a condom in his wallet at all times just to be on the safe side. No one wants to fuck someone with an STD.
Fuck Buddies Don’t Last Forever
All good flings come to an end. It’s a harsh truth of life. It doesn’t matter who you are or where you’re from, you and your friend with benefits are eventually going to go your separate ways.
This is something you need to be aware of right from the get go. Keep it in the back of your mind at all times because, not only does acknowleding its limited shelf-life heighten the sexual experience, but it will ensure that your heart stays in tact when it all ends.